Everyone is so brave and inspiring to share their stories. I thought I would share mine to show a slightly younger side.
Everyone is told stories of horrible rape experience done to them by friends, family, and strangers. Every one of those experiences is something that should never have happened in the first place. They say ¼ of women have been raped. With all the women I have spoken to it’s more like ½ if not more. That’s not including men, and that’s messed up.
So here is my story.
I was 6 or 7 years old. Yup. That’s pretty fucking young. I didn’t know anything about rape or sexual harassment. We hadn’t been taught it in school yet and no parent would have thought, back then, they would need to teach their kid what it was because we lived in a better world than that, right?
Mine was my step-grandfather. It went on for 3-4years before anything was said to my parents. I remember times I was forced to do things I didn’t want to. Laying in bed in the middle of the night pretending to be asleep while he did his things. I didn’t know what was going on. I didn’t like it, but I was made to feel that if I told my parents, I’d get in trouble because it was my fault. I was 6-10 years old. It wasn’t my fault.
I’d like to say that’s the only time something like that has happened, but life’s not that perfect. Other times were by friends, you know? People you trust. Some of those times were because the guy got the wrong idea, but yet in every situation I never said yes, I never said I wanted to, and every time I said no and never have consented.
We already teach our kids to not go with strangers, but I don’t want a world where I have to teach my son or daughter what rape is, sexual harassment, or that “that” might ever, EVER happen to them, and what they should do about it at the age of 5-6 years old. Imagine explaining that. They wouldn’t understand, would they? But unfortunately there are people out there that would do such a horrible thing, and we have to try our best to protect them.
But we shouldn’t have to.
Everyone’s story is unique, inspiring, strong, brave and empowering to others to help stand up and push back to stop this, and educate.
Because people, Time’s Up.